“I need help following through on doing things that are good for me,” is what she said to me, but what she really needed was:
permission to be ok with choosing her self-care time over chores
identifying some hidden inequality in her partnership that she could address
unearthing and questioning her expectations of herself and her definition of “good moms do…"
What Dacy brought to this coaching call seemed clear on the surface, but once we started talking, I realized there was so much more going on here. And this is true for every coaching conversation. Whatever you think is the issue, is usually just the surface.
Dacy was struggling with wanting to do a weekly menu plan and packing her children’s lunches the night before school, but was feeling so much resistance about doing those things. She thought this was a commitment problem, that if she could just figure out how to MAKE herself do the thing, she’d be all good.
Do you have things you wish you could make yourself do?
get up earlier
start an exercise regime
keep your house cleaner
stop yelling at your kids
In this live coaching call, I helped Dacy dig in to what was REALLY going on here, what she really WANTED - and it was not at all what she thought. I expect what she uncovered is going to feel really true to you, too:
It is hard to ask for help
We all have unexamined expectations of ourselves, and they don’t always fit the life we are actually trying to create.
Listen in to this show to hear what it is like to get coached with me, and how even 30 minutes can create really important awareness and change.
Is this kind of change something you need in your life? I work one on one with women - moms like you - who want their lives to feel less frustrating and exhausting. They want to know how to feel like whole humans, how to be happy moms. They want to know how to know what they need and how to ask for it effectively.
If you want these things, too, let's talk. Message me and with "I HAVE NEEDS" and I'll get back to you with the next step.
